“Sticky Faith” – Powell & Clark (a review and quotes)

sticky-faith1The first half of this book contained several common statistics and basic facts that we have all heard. If I were not the type to finish what I start, the book would have been left unfinished. Unexpectedly, the book took a turn from informational to practical. As I read through the chapters on justice, senior year transition and college beginnings, several thoughts were affirmed and new ideas were generated. I am grateful for having stuck with Sticky Faith.

A few quotes highlighted along the way:

  •  “Virtually all hooking up is lubricated with copious amounts of alcohol.” – Dr. Michael Kimmel
  • How you express and live out your faith may have a greater impact on your son or daughter than anything else.
  • The most important social influence in shaping young people’s religious lives is the religious life modeled and taught to them by their parents.
  • “When it come’s to kids’ faith, parents get what they are.” – Christian Smith
  • The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love.
  • Galatians 5:5 reminds us that it is God’s job to work in us and to present us as righteous, and it is our job to learn to trust him and let the process of becoming the quality of person he created, redeemed and called unfold. As parents, then, instead of concentrating on – and sometimes fretting about – whether and how our kids are living “righteous” lives, we have the opportunity to help them discover, access, and strengthen their trust and faith in Jesus Christ. In so doing, the righteousness they eventually display will be the product of the Holy Spirit.
  • God makes it clear that he is not interested in obedience geared merely to obtain his favor.
  • Trusting Christ means we believe that he is at work, bringing healing and redemption to the most hopeless of circumstances.
  • Our kids grow not when we stand as goalies preventing pain from entering the net of their lives but when we are present and listen carefully when they feel beat up, confused, and defeated.
  • A good faith conversation doesn’t equal convincing your kid that what you believe is best.
  • Let’s be honest: parents lecturing kids hasn’t worked.
  • Never explain something to your kid if you can ask a question instead.
  • Service is giving someone who is thirsty a glass of cold water. It’s a noble act. And let’s be honest, sometimes that’s all we have the time or ability to do. But justice goes deeper. Justice asks why the person couldn’t get their own glass of water, helps them figure our how to get their own glass of water, and works with them so they can help others get their own water too.
  • “…what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God” – Micah 6:8
  • Justice work is more likely to stick when it’s not an event but a process.
  • “I didn’t think I really needed to go to church to be a strong Christian, but after being away from church completely while I studied abroad, I went back to church one Sunday and saw people caring for each other in a way that I had not experienced outside of the church body.” – Anna-Maria
  • Over and over, students have told us that the first two weeks at college are when they make key decisions about drinking and other high-risk behaviors, right along with choosing whether to go to church or to a campus ministry.
  • Given that the average credit-card debt of a college student is more than $3,000 and half of undergraduates own four or more credit cards, these are areas where our kids need help thinking harder about reality.
  • Parents who think they need to go “radio silent” when their kids go to college are actually doing their kids a disservice. In our study, contact with parents – whether by phone, email, or text – is related to practical and emotional adjustment to college. This was true regardless of who made the contact.
  • Trust God with your child.
  • Regardless of your son or daughter’s age, it is your job both to make sure that they are reasonably protected as well as to give them space to roam into adulthood. Trusting God with your child means that while you are still his chosen representative to your kid, you rest knowing that it is God’s power and mercy that will protect them over the long haul.
  • The dilemma our kids face as they move into high school and beyond is they know how much we want them to take their faith seriously. But they also soon come to know that faith is ultimately meaningless unless they choose it for themselves.
  • Restoration normally occurs through relationship.

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